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Writing is Healing

Anyone who keeps a journal or scribbles thoughts on a scrap of paper knows that it feels good to write. On the page I am my own therapist, rabbi, and best friend. The heaviness of the words leaves my body, landing on the page, ready to be read again tomorrow or simply torched n a metal trashcan (which I’ve really done, when on a workshop with Blanche McCrary Boyd).

I’m sure that means writing is good for you. “Vhat could it hurt?” my yiddishe grandmom would say.

Now, The Journal of the American Medical Association is backing up my belief with some facts. I first heard about this in an article called Words that Heal in ODE Magazine.

Patients suffering from asthma or rheumatoid arthritis were asked to describe the most difficult moments of their lives or simply write down their plans for the day. Four months later, patients who spent just 20 minutes a day for three days in a row writing about their problems felt better, took fewer drugs to relieve their symptoms and saw their doctors less often. If a pill could have such an effect after just three doses, no physician in the world would fail to prescribe it to all her patients.

Now, if we could just get Obamacare to support this…

Sometimes glue is great.  Dentures.  Scrapbooks.  But for your bum? Yes.  Whatever works.

Today I read Bum Glue, a blog written by Nita Sweeny, who I met in Taos through Natalie Goldberg, when one of us–I can’t remember which–was assisting for Natalie.  Nita writes about writing and starts many of her monthly blogs with quotes like:

“I procrastinate to a point where I’m filled with self-loathing and then I start writing. It’s usually a state of self-loathing that gets me going.” – Michael Lewis

Nita’s most recent blog asked who has a kindle or a nook.  We do!  It’s a dusty doorstop right now.  Another Bum Glue blog entry had a link to novel-writing class by Holly Lisle, which I clicked on, and found it to be as interesting as it was super-salesy.  When I see sites like Holly’s, I’m never sure if I should emulate it or ignore it because it feels so pushy and IN YOUR FACE. But knowing that Nita recommended her holds a lot of weight with me.

When I subscribed to Nita’s monthly posts, I was taken automatically to Google Reader, and then three things happened:

1.  There were a whole bunch of recommended links there got me totally distracted. ARRRRGGG.

2.  I tried to figure out how to see only the links recommended by people I want to read.  Still clueless on this.

3.  I saw a great link from my daughter Sarah, written by Wes Huffstutter from U-M Tech Transfer, who I’ve worked with. As a GLEQ coach, I found Wes’s  post in “Just a Start-up Guy in Ann Arbor” to be totally clear and helpful.

Clearly reading relevant blogs and not drowning in them is a balancing act.  Which leads me to the following photo of Rabindra Sarkar, taken in San Diego recently.

Rabindra Sarkar

Rabindra Sarkar

I watched this guy balance these huge rocks.  He used no glue.  His trick was tiny frequent micro-movements with his hands, which were as steady as a surgeons, as he kept feeling for the point where the rock wouldn’t lean any more. On youtube, he talked about how much practice it took for him to do that.  Which leads me back to the bum glue.  Writing well or balancing rocks–it all takes practice.

My Virtual Life

I post.  But I am still in many ways a blogging/twittering/social media moron.

I am technically aware enough to be dangerous. I have taught technical writing at the college level, have documented software for the Navy, and have blogs at debbiemerion.com and essaycoaching.com.

Still, I was inspired yesterday to be a little less blogorific moronic when I listened to President Obama give a speech at UM commencement. He said he reads 10 letters every night. He also recommended reading blogs of opposing views.  I thought –if he can do that, I can read a new blog every day, and write about the blog and or my technical difficulties in doing so.

My goals is to bring my two lives together:  my real life (give me a non-fat latte please) and my virtual life (what’s happening with my friends and the world?—I have to often read it online to find out).

I’m starting with friend’s blogs. Send me yours, I want to read it and follow it!

Dining at Random

Dining at Random

Today I decided to start with my friend Elizabeth Sikkenga.  She is my also my friend on Facebook, so I went and got her latest blog information from there.  It is called Dining at Random.  She had told me about this adventure when we were, coincidentally, dining—if you can call having lunch at Café Verde that.

I love her idea of picking a different country to cook a recipe from each week or month.  I want to hear more about this.

I clicked on “subscribe to this blog’s feed” next to her blog and then I was asked which application to use to subscribe to the feed.  I clicked “Google”.  (My daughter Sarah Merion had helped me set up Google Reader as an RSS feed six months ago or so.  A few magic keystrokes of her nimble fingers and she was done.  I had approximately a 10% comprehension rate of what she had done—but it was done!)  Then I saw a screen that asked me “Add to Google Reader or Google Homepage” and I clicked Google Reader.

WOW! Now when I look at Google Reader, I not only see Elizabeth’s “What’s on the Menu?” entry of April 20, but I also see earlier entries, with recipes, starting Jan. 2.  But if I just look at Dining at Random, I don’t see any of those earlier entries.  Maybe Elizabeth or her brilliant computery husband  Henry Velick (who is also an awesome tenor) can enlighten me about why this is.

Do you have a blog that you think I should read?  Tell me about it!

For three years I have wondered who has been drawing the 6 feet long phantasmagorical chalk creatures on the path near Las Vegas Park in the Dicken School area.  I run through that park weekly in the warmer months.   The creatures have captions like “joint eater” and “spooky floating human/vampire hybrid,” but the artwork is never signed.

Last month I finally had an incentive to find the artist and write about him.  I had a deadline!

joint eater

joint eater

spooky floating human vampire hybrid

spooky floating human vampire hybrid

Here’s how it all happened:  In March, Kathy Robenalt, director of the Ann Arbor Book Festival Writer’s Conference, asked me to speak at a session at conference on May 15.  Also speaking:  John Hilton, Editor of the Ann Arbor Observer.   I had suggested his name to Kathy– I always found him to be such a precise and helpful editor, ever since he published my first Observer story ( “The Fish Doctor”) in 1994.

Soon I received an email from John asking me if he could interview me about how he helps writers select a focus for a story. Of course, I said, and brought with me an example to work with–the chalk drawing idea to pitch, with photos.

John studied the pictures, and googled their captions to hypothesize about the artist.  Where did he (or she) get his inspiration, John wondered.  Was he into video games?  Could he explain his art as well as he creates it?  John and I discussed where such a story might go in the issue.  My Town seemed the best alternative, so that I could use a more personal voice in the writing, but John had a stack of My Town stories waiting to be published.  Inside Ann Arbor seemed like the most likely place in the magazine.

John encouraged me to write the story, saying it seemed like a good possibility for the May issue. That was all I needed to hear.

The next day was sunny and warm, perfect for a chalk artist to be outside.  I drove over to the park and taped a note on the path asking the artist to call me.  Then I had another idea.  I asked a neighbor hanging outside near the park with her son if they knew the artist, and they did.  “It’s Duncan,” they said.  They pointed to his house down the street.  I knocked on the door,  Duncan’s  mother Melissa came out, and welcomed me to stay and interview Duncan on their porch.  It was as though she had been waiting for me.  And in a sense she had.  She told me she and her husband had asked someone two years ago to write about Duncan’s art!

Duncan came out two minutes later, with a 20 piece box of unused Meijers chalk under his arm.


Duncan at work

Duncan at picnic table

Duncan at picnic table

His mother says she buys  him 10 boxes at a time. In some way Duncan was exceptionally poised and genteel even by adult standards,  pointing to two wooden chairs on the porch, and saying ‘please sit down, I’ll sit in the uncomfortable one”.

His inspiration comes from mythology (he just bought A Wizard’s  Bestiary at Crazy Wisdom) and animatronics that he sees on Youtube or in Halloween stores.  What’s an animatronic?  “It’s something they use in haunted houses—a robot they make to look like a monster.  They move stiffly, so most people don’t care about them. “ To clarify, Duncan acted out the stiff movement, his face frozen in a silent shriek, moving his arms up and down like a robotic monster animal, with herky-jerky repetitive movements.

Don’t mistake his characters as being inspired by the gaming world.  “I despise video games,” said Duncan.  “If someone brings a video game to my house, I ask them sternly to turn it off and make something better with their time,” he said.

Each creature emerges from Duncan’s chalk-covered left hand in about five minutes, without sketches or erasure.   He moves through a mental list of undrawn creatures that have caught his fancy.

Check out the drawings! Here is the location:

http://www.google.com/maps?q=Runnymede+Blvd+%26+Las+Vegas+Dr,+Ann+Arbor,+MI+48103,+USA&ie=UTF8&hq=&hnear=Runnymede+Blvd+%26+Las+Vegas+Dr,+Ann+Arbor,+Washtenaw,+Michigan+48103&t=h&z=16

Read the published story about Duncan and his chalk drawings.

My writing projects are usually smooth sailing except for two tiny glitches:  getting started, and finishing.

Everyone has their own tricks  to get unstuck (shake the dust off your ideas and get started) and stick to it (get finished).  What are yours?  How do we support ourselves to sit in a dark room with just our mind and a computer and create?

I’ll be leading a teleseminar to share these writing secrets. Come to listen and contribute what works for you.

Conference Dial-in Number: (605) 477-2100
Participant Access Code: 945074#

January 20, 2010 6:30 PM – 7:30

Sign up for this teleseminar if you need to :

• Learn tricks for getting your ideas unstuck–out of your head and onto paper

• Get creative

• Stick with a writing schedule

• Get and give feedback and encouragement

• Establish a structure for fulfilling your goals

• Inspiration

I know one writer who puts on his writing hat.  This says to his family:  “Don’t bother me now, I’m creating!” I know another who recommends putting a little model of a train on the table in front of you, with the engine and cars disconnected. The message: let go of your baggage and write.

What do I need to write regularly? This is what I came up with about squeezing the tube (me) and having the paste (writing) come out.  I need to do at least one of the following:

1.  Hold the space time-wise (like Eckhart Tolle says–9-2PM was the space for his book)

2.  Hold the space place-wise (a clean desk, office, use the same place  if possible)

3.  Compelling idea to write about (some ideas simply appear, usually I have to go find them)

4.  A deadline (my biggest motivator)

5.  An audience–This might be just one person–Stephen King’s audience is his wife.

What gets you unstuck and sticking to it?  Share with others on Wednedsay, January 20.

Is an unwritten book lurking or smirking within you?  Listen to a January 6, 2010 blogtalk radio interview with my esteemed colleague, Lisa Pasbjerg.  Interested?  Here’s Lisa’s description of the event:

Would you like to write more clearly and easily? What would it do for you as a leader to feel more confident and competent in your ability to express yourself in writing? Join us as executive coach Lisa Pasbjerg interviews Debbie Merion, a many times published author, writing consultant and writing coach, about ways that she uses her creative and positive, affirming style to bring out the writer’s true voice. Whether you are contemplating a needed essay as the next step toward an additional graduate or professional degree , want to “kick-start” that book you know that you have within you, or simply want to produce better, clearer writing in order to enhance your career, this show is for you. Listen and learn as Debbie shares some of her best secrets, along with some wonderful examples of successes gleaned over her many years of experience working with bright, capable, people who want to write better.

Get warmed up for Lisa’s show in January with these excellent books about the writing craft:

Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg

Bird by Bird by Annie Lamott

On Writing by Stephen King

Listen to Lisa Pasbjerg on Blog Talk Radio

Biggby Coffee and the

Professional Coaches Association of Michigan (PCAM)

Present:

Conversations for Possibility

Drop by to experience an inspiring conversation with a professional coach!

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Biggby Coffee

1667 Plymouth Road, Ann Arbor, MI

(734) 222-7030

To serve the community this holiday season, Professional Coaches Association of Michigan (PCAM) members are offering an unusual opportunity:
professional life coaching at Biggby coffeehouses throughout Michigan on December 9.

Experience a 30-minute conversation that will make a huge difference for you today and for your upcoming 2010. A sign-up sheet will be available at the coffeehouse beginning at 10 AM on December 9.

Cost = Suggested $5 donation to American Red Cross.

Participating Coaches in Ann Arbor:

Time

Coach

Email

LinkedIn site

10-noon

Yael Dolev

yael@dolevfoodcoach.com

http://www.linkedin.com/in/dolevfoodcoach

Ina Lockau

consulting@lockau.org

http://www.linkedin.com/pub/ina-lockau-vogel-phd/8/2a3/116

1-3 PM

Geri Markel

geri@managingyourmind.com

http://www.linkedin.com/in/geraldinemarkel

Helen Ewing

1ewingroup@comcast.net

http://www.linkedin.com/in/theproblemsolvingcoach

3-5 PM

Debbie Merion

debbie@debbiemerion.com

http://www.linkedin.com/in/debbiemerion

Alje Vanhoorn

coachalje@gmail.com

http://www.linkedin.com/in/coachalje

The International Coach Federation (ICF) defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. The Professional Coaches Association of Michigan (PCAM) is a chapter of the International Coach Federation
(ICF).

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